Breaking Up is Hard to Do

I sadly must report that my brother Mike has just recently broken up with his long time girlfriend, Steph. 


I know this wasn't an easy decision for them to make, but something that they knew was the right thing to do. I wish them both so much happiness and I hope that they both find it. I know that they are both going through their own things right now and trying to move on in the way that is best for them, but I can't help but feel sad.


I am sad because things did not workout the way they they had both envisioned. I am sad because I also had to say goodbye to Steph and the dream that she would someday be family. I'm not sure how I can stop caring for her and wishing her the best. It will be hard not talking to her and knowing what is going on in her life.


Steph and I grew close through out the time she was with Mike. We spent holidays and family dinners together. I opened myself up to her and grew to not just like her as a girlfriend for my brother but I also grew to love her as family. 


She sent me a sweet e-mail saying how sorry she was that things did not workout with Mike, and that she will miss me and my family. Responding to her e-mail was so hard! An e-mail doesn't feel like adequate closure on our relationship.


I feel as if I am too breaking up with her too. Breaking up with someone to me almost feels like death. You go from seeing and talking to that person every day to nothing. To having to give up the dreams and plans that you made together. To having to start fresh and new. Breaking up is scary and I can only imagine how my brother and her are feeling. Breakups are hard no matter if they are mutual or vicious. Time is the only thing that can heal the hart. 


I wish for both of them that they can look back on their time together with fondness. That they can see how they have grown and become a better person from being together. I hope that they can both find what makes them happy and hold on to it. 


Maybe one day in the future that they will find their way back to each other, but for the time being, hopefully they can find comfort from their family and friends. That now that they are no longer together that they can focus on themselves and find out who they are and who they want to be.


And, what would a breakup be without some really great sad music.....make sure you have some tissues when you listen!

This is my absolute favorite breakup song. Listening to it takes me right back to high school!

I know this one is my brother's favorite....

Love love love,