Forever girlfriend?

My bestie, Allie, shared a post from a blog that she reads.....Every Mile a Memory. This post changed my life, and made me feel a bit sad at the same time.


The hubs and I have been married a little over a year, but before that we dated for seven years. We met back freshman year at PSU Berks, and have been together since. We experienced some bumps, and pot holes, in the road during that time. Finally, July of 2009, he popped the question. 


We were both on cloud nine, excited to begin a future together. 


Then, on August 14, 2010 I became a Mrs. 

I lived with my parents up until a month before we were married, and we had never had the experience of living together, under the same roof for longer then a vacation span of time. 


Now that we are in our house, routine, schedules, clutter, and cleaning tend to get in the way of any "special" time we might have. Our anniversary marked the first "date" night that I can remember in a loooong time. 


I know I am majorly guilty of not flirting with him like I once would have. Or making him feel special and important. I often feel that I do take him for granted. He is a wonderful man who takes care of me and loves me for me. 


He often tells me that I don't know how to take a complement. He will tell me that I'm beautiful and I will just groan and grumble. Thinking about this, I find that the times he does tell me this is when I do not feel so beautiful. Be it right before bed when my hair is still wet from a shower and I have no makeup on, or on a day that I haven't worked out when I am feeling fat and bloated. The nights that I do get dressed up to do something I wonder around waiting for that complement that may never come.


So, as I read that post, I began to question, how do I get that "spark" back into our marriage....how do I become my husband's girlfriend again? 


I'm not sure that this is something that I can do alone. Him and I need to be on the same page with this, and have the same feelings about what we want. It makes me sad, that now since we have a larger home that he can watch TV comfortably down stares in his "man cave" and I can watch TV upstairs. We do not need to find common ground or compromise. Also TV at dinner is something that we need to give up.


When we first moved in together, I had a strict NO TV DURING DINNER rule. If I was going to take the time to cook, then we needed to sit together and enjoy the meal together. This might be the only time during the day that we would get a chance to discuss our days. 


We also need to take a break from our friends. We do not do dates together. We typically do them with friends. This is partially because the hubby is only off for two weekends a month and wants to make sure he sees is friends during this time, because in fact we DO live together, and see each other daily. 


BUT seeing each other is not the same and being together. 


Maybe we do not need to have this date night on the weekend when there is time to be with friends, but maybe we could do it during the week. And a date night does not mean we have to go out to a fancy restaurant, it doesn't mean we have to go out at all. It could be just un-plugging from internet, phone, and distractions for just ONE night to re-connect.


We all want to be made to feel special and important. So starting today, I am going to try and bring this spark back into my marriage. I want to be my husband's forever girlfriend.....